Why Aren’t Why Here?

Posted: May 14, 2013 in Uncategorized

Why are we here?


I seriously contemplated just having a blog post pose this question so I could leave the comments open and have you guys essentially write this thing for me.  Alas, that’s probably not why I’m here.  To be honest, I’m not really sure why any of us are here on earth, and I’m not even going to attempt to answer that question.  So if you came here looking for the answers to life, shame on you for assuming anyone, never mind a two-bit hack writer with a blog, has the answers to life.


But, maybe I can point you in the right direction at least by one hundredth of a degree and we can all it even?  Cool?  Cool.

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See, up until yesterday when I found out that Miley Cyrus is now the queen of Maxim’s top 100, I thought I had a few answers for you.  Now, I have no idea what’s going on and I might very well just be a rooster illusion… whatever that means.  (To be honest, there was a time when I thought Kristin Kreuk was the meaning of life, so maybe you shouldn’t take me that seriously)


What I can provide you with today is at least one reason why we aren’t on this planet.  And that, my friends, is to compare ourselves to other people.


That might sound a bit ridiculous seeing as how there are so many people on this planet that we are more or less stacked on each other.  Looking over to see how the next person is doing compared to us seems pretty much inevitable.  Kind of like a urinal lineup in the men’s room.  But I’m not sure that’s really why we exist.  To compete against one another until we’re six feet under.  I mean, of course that’s not what I think, my LAST POST was about doing things authentically for yourself, regardless of external factors.


We spend so much time measuring ourselves against other people, and a lot of times it makes us unsure of where we’re actually supposed to be in life.  However, the truth is probably closer to the idea that we are where we’re supposed to be at all times in our lives.


It might help to look at it this way:  Every person is more or less the star of their own movie.  So we have something like 9 billion movies going on at one time on the planet.  So each person you encounter in the world is at a different point in their respective movies, but it doesn’t necessarily mean we’re all at the exact same point in our own movies.

 Nor does it mean you’re right or wrong for being ahead or behind in the timeline of your movie compared to where someone else is.  It just means that you may be at the point when you’ve just been bitten by a radioactive spider and are starting to become aware of your powers;  whereas, someone else has already realized their powers and is now living in a mansion owned by some dude named Charles Xavier.


So the point is that you can definitely find your own X-men, or Avengers, or Super Friends or whatever, but hawkeyeit’s going to happen in your own movie.  Not someone else’s.  Sure, you can be a part of someone else’s movie, and that takes a bit of planning and some pretty good writing.  But you need to get to the point in your own movie where you’re ready for this.  Case in point:  Jeremy Renner would be no good to the Avengers if a Hawkeye movie was made and it cut off right when he learns how to hold a bow, but not how to fire it.


Remember when you played in little league and that kid that sucked was always stuck out in right field while you were the star shortstop?  And then fast forward 10 years later, he’s an All-State player in high school and you haven’t touched a ball in 5 years?  Yeah.  His movie is playing out a little differently than yours.  That doesn’t mean his movie is better, and yours worse.  Just different.  But it seems like we have a hard time getting past that.


And like all movies, not every story is created equal.  You might look at where someone is in their story and think that they got there because of the help they received from others and special circumstances.  And that may be absolutely true.  But it doesn’t change the fact that you still have to live out your movie.  And the fact that you are ultimately the writer of your movie means that you have the opportunity to find help and means, too.

Is it going to be as easy as it seemed for that other guy?  Probably not.  But the key here is that it seems easy for other people.  But the truth is that we have no idea how many Christian Bale-like meltdowns he had behind the scenes of his movie to make it happen, either.  Keep in mind that we only catch glimpses of each others movies.  Even with people that we think we know exceedingly well, we can’t read any of their thoughts yet so we can’t assume that we know what’s going on with them at all times.


Back to the main point:  Stop comparing yourself to others.  That’s not what matters.  What matters is that you’re okay with where you are in your life/movie.  If you’re not okay with that, then I suggest you start putting together your own “getting stuff done” montage to get to where you want to be.  Can you take cues from people who seem to be in a bit better spot in their movies?  Sure.  Just make sure you don’t get too caught up in their movies and forget that you actually have your own plot twists to tackle.


One last point before we go.  One of the harder things about this is to accept the fact that regardless of where we are at a certain moment, there may not always be a solid cause and effect explanation as to why we’re there.  At least one that we’re aware of at the time.  And no matter what we could have done differently or what chips could have fallen our way, what happened, happened and it is what it is.  You just have to be able to cut to the next scene.


And if all else fails, remember that you alone can rewrite your movie whenever you please.  Just make sure it’s the movie you want to make, and not what someone else wants you to make.  Otherwise, you might turn out to be the next Nicholas Cage, and well… yeah.  Just don’t.  Please.

Unless, of course, you’re making more National Treasure movies.


Thanks for reading.


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